Devotion 6: Children - Obey
Pastor Ryan Story
The last season of my life was a very eventful one. I had the opportunity to lead a middle school Growth Community for the first time in about eight years. Now, I genuinely love all aspects of Family Ministry, but working with Middle School boys was an amazing opportunity for me to draw closer to Jesus. There were times that were some of the most frustrating moments and there were times that were some of the most rewarding hours. One night, these middle school boys were making fun of me for being old. Middle Schoolers haven't developed proper love languages yet. They asked me a question, “If you go back to any age, what age would you choose?” They inserted their burns and their jesting, but this question actually had me thinking.
I paused for a moment and I thought about it. I was 40 when they asked. I thought maybe my 30’s when doing a P90X workout was a weekly activity. I thought through my 20’s when I could actually eat from the spicy menu at Buffalo Wild Wings. I do miss the times of not needing a bunch of medicine to deal with the tummy troubles. I thought about times when I was a teenager and felt like I was indestructible. The more and more I thought about it, I came to the conclusion, and answered them, “I would not go back to any age.” They were all shocked and asked me why not, and I said, “I did not know Jesus when I was a teen. Ephesians 6 seems hard to live out. I don't like the obey part of that verse.” This real, honest answer prompted a great conversation with the boys.
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Ephesians 6:1-3
When you first read these verses, "obey" really pops out, almost like its highlighted. Now, let's be real, obedience isn't anyone's favorite thing, right? We're all born a little stubborn, naturally thinking our way is the best way. It’s actually pretty funny how teenagers who think they’re always right about everything usually turn into adults who think the exact same thing!
Engaging with these middle schoolers, I realized faith development has a crucial, reciprocal responsibility. Parents nurture, teach, and model worship, while children must actively listen, learn, and apply. The relationship between parents and children is a beautiful yet challenging dance. However, this dance can quickly become difficult when ego and pride emerge. It is crucial for a child to be able to discuss their perspective on life in an environment where they feel engaged, not attacked.When children feel they are able to discuss life, they become more receptive and engaged. Who knew you could get all of that from some Middle School boys?